(Tulsa, Okla.) As death is inevitable for each of us, many of us will be the one left behind, to walk the lonely road alone. 800,000 people become widowed each year, in the U.S. Currently there are more than 100,000 widows in Oklahoma. The impact of grief and widowhood is not something, for which one can prepare, even when the death is anticipated. In shock, a widow has no idea what she needs, when people ask what they can do to help.
Research shows memory is affected, for awhile, after the death of a loved one. Yet, a widow is immediately called upon to handle difficult tasks and start making important decisions.
While grieving the loss of their loved one, widows grieve the unexpected loss of long time friends. Studies show that when a widow loses her husband she also loses 75% of those she believed were friends.
The stigma of being labeled a “widow” and with no community to rely on, she may experience intense loneliness, feeling like a misfit. Wondering if there is any point of going on, she may simply withdraw from life.
James 1:27 says that true religion is to take care of widows in their distress.
Stand in the Gap Ministries is hosting a luncheon, in Tulsa, on Tuesday June 9, 2015 to share information, compiled from extensive interviews with over 200 widows.
“Over 39 churches have already received, at no cost, the Widows’ Kindred Community manual,” said Buddy Stone co-founder of Stand in the Gap Ministries. The information is unique in that it enhances what the church is already doing, to support hurting widows, in practical and emotional ways, with minimal involvement required from pastoral staff.
Only another widow can understand a widow’s excruciating pain. Widows will confide in each other feelings and thoughts that they won’t share with anyone else. What is difficult to put into words, another widow understands.
Receiving reassurance from kindred spirits, that these feelings are a normal part of the grieving process, provides comfort and hope. Learning from other widows that grief differs greatly from one person to another, she feels encouraged as she moves through the healing process, at her own pace and in her own way. A lot of healing takes place when she discovers, to her relief, that she is not alone, afterall. Feeling accepted, widows look to the future, with a a deepened faith and a renewed sense of enthusiasm making them more likely to volunteer within the church.
Due to limited seating, please make your reservation early by calling: 918 585-6112 ext 1. Learn more about Stand in the Gap Ministries: sitgm.org/widows